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April 14, 2008

Ever since last winter I have wanted to go on a showshoing adventure with our family. Each weekend, either the weather hasn’t been that great, or something is happening. Well, this weekend was supposed to be great weather, and no plans, so we packed up, grabbed a McDonalds breakfast and off we went to Cypress. The weather was fantastic and very warm! In fact it was so mild that we could feel a warm breeze in the air even at the top of the mountain. Everyone got snowshoes and the tiniest were for Megan. We set off into the woods.

We hiked through the shady and sunny parts of the woods, getting a feel for the snowshoes and checking the bird signs as we went.

We all cheered, reaching the clearing near Hollyburn Lodge. The snow was beaming from the sun. You can’t go snowshoeing without stopping at the lodge for lunch!

We ate outside in the snow. We had lots to entertain us: people, kids, lovers and a couple of interesting birds, including a Steller’s Jay and a “Grey Jay” (that’s what someone called it). The Grey Jay had quite the personality and he got quite to us. In fact, he even ate a piece of bread off of Mark’s hand. I wish I’d caught a photo of that! The girls laughed, rolled in the snow and pulled each other and Myles in the sled. Myles was most curious about the snow, but he did not enjoy touching it. He prefered to point at it and describe it with a “dugga! dugga!”

We did one more loop after lunch on a path opening to snowbanks between the trees and passing crosscountry skiiers. By the end of the loop Mark was carrying Myles in the backpack and pulling both girls in the sled. There had been some crying and Miranda’s feet felt cold and wet from her boots. It was one of those days where nothing could spoil my enthusiasm. My spirits were soaring as I took in the scenery, sun and company of my hub and kids.

As we left the parking lot, we took some secretive photos of people sunning themselves on the mountain. Miranda was protesting as we took them “Mommy, what if they see you!!!”, but just look at them in shorts on top of Cypress. Imagine.


Friendship: My Best Girlfriend

March 26, 2008

Think on things that are noble.


My trip to Hornby was more than just a family vacation, it was a time to relax and reminisce with a long time friend of mine. When I think of my friend Rebecca, affectionately known as Becky, Beck or the Beckmeister (the latter was my dad’s nickname for her), I think of history and loyalty. Becky and I have known each other since Kindergarten and became inseparable best friends in grade eight when we agreed to share a locker together (a most bonding event). The summer before grade eight was spent at Rebecca’s house down on Northcliffe Cres. on the edge of Burrard Inlet. We would disappear into the cavernous bushes behind her house, exploring rough trails and best of all, screaming as we swung on a rope swing over a huge ravine. It had been made by rope tied to an arrow shot around a high branch by her next door neighbour (and sometimes boyfriend) Ben. Other times we would wander down to the inlet to put coins on the train track and stood back as they were flattened by the train and shot, “ping!” off the track. We’d head back up to the trampoline in the backyard for flips off the balcony as we jumped overlooking boats and waves in the background.

It is a comforting feeling to have a friend who shares interests, dreams, laughter, disappointments and even times of great sadness. It is great to curl up on the couch at Hornby, with a bellini or a cup of tea talking about the past and now watching our kids play and create new adventures of their own.



March 5, 2008

Some more thoughts about love (even though it’s March now). I greatly enjoy listening to Christian radio, Praise 106.5. In the morning they have a variety of pastors speak on various topics. I find that the messages bring life and peace to my day. On Tuesday, after dropping Megan off at preschool, I was listening to Dr. David Jeremiah, who isn’t usually my favourite, but his message really spoke to my heart. He told a story:

“Scottish broadcaster and writer Allister Moffat described the difference between his mother and his father on one occasion and he said it this way: She loved first and asked questions later. He asked questions and if he got the right answers he might love. Allister’s mother knew Agape love.”

“Agape, the Greek word for love which describes the highest form of love known to man or to the universe. Agape was unknown before God revealed himself in Christ. It is a love which is unconditional. It is a volitional love. It is not a feeling love or an emotional love. It is a love that is unrestricted and untamed. This is the selfless love that God has for us and he instructs us to have for others.” I know I have loved like the father in the story many times, but thank goodness God has so much Agape love to give us, that we can ask Him to help us give this love to our children. To hear the entire broadcast go to Turning Point.

The “m’s”

March 2, 2008


The people who inspire me the most are first of all, my husband, Mark, and my three children, Miranda (5), Megan (3) and Myles (1). Mark and I met at SFU in a second year English course. After introducing ourselves in class, this tall, talkative fellow approached me to inform me that we had both worked at the PNE (local summer fair). I was at the time thinking “so what?!” As the semester went on, I found Mark to be quite animated and amusing. A small group of us started to meet for lunch after class to chat. That class ended and I continued to run into Mark in the halls of SFU, sometimes in the computer lab helping other girls too!!! We ended up in a Shakespeare class together and subtle hints of his affections for me were increasing. Unfortunately, I was seeing someone else at the time. Mark invited me to a housewarming party at his new bachelor suite in early October 1993 and that night he drove me home. Single again, I invited Mark “as a friend” to the Depeche Mode concert in Vancouver. He saw this as an opportunity to kiss me good night at the end of our date and the rest is history. Mark is a man of integrity. He has a heart for God, loves writing, teaching and putting plans into action. He is a fun, caring father and he’s my best friend.

Inspiring People

March 2, 2008

There are many people who inspire me, but the ones who inspire me the most are the people that I know well. Jesus chose to use common, everyday people to spread the gospel, and that is who he also uses in our lives to love us, teach us and encourage us. Chuck Swindoll in one of his messages said that “you can learn something from everyone you meet.” Meeting and listening to people is one of the things I enjoy most in life. Relationships are really what it’s all about.

“When they realized the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus.” Acts 4:13

Love Languages

February 28, 2008

Over the month of February, I tend to think a lot about love, because of Valentines Day. A wise friend recently said to me, “it’s really all about relationships”. This is a concept that I want to explore. “Relationship before rules” is a philosophy that we try to have in our home. Sometimes relationships can seem difficult to foster. We feel hurt, misunderstood or get impatient with each other. I have found Gary Chapman’s books on Love Languages extremely simple, practical and they bring great understanding to our relationships. It starts with understanding that we all have ways that we feel loved.

What makes you feel most loved? The five love languages are:

  • quality time
  • words of affirmation
  • gifts
  • acts of service
  • physical touch

Take the quiz to find out your love language.

This knowledge is also extremely practical to help foster loving relationships with our kids. Gary Chapman also has a book for parents about kids as well.

Gary talks a lot about the concept of a “love tank” and that our “love tanks” can become empty if our love needs aren’t being filled.

Of course God’s love for us is the greatest; it is good beyond what we can comprehend. In fact, though we try to love each other, only God can meet our deepest love needs; and he will, if we ask him to.

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses all knowledge-that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Ephesians 3:17-19

Now that is a great passage!