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More Than a Conqueror

April 3, 2008

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“In all these things [trouble, hardship, persecution, famine, nakedness, famine and sword] we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

Romans 8:37[35]

I don’t know about famine, nakedness or persecution in my life, but how about meltdowns for not having a playdate, getting three children to school on time and staying on top of the laundry? My kids have had a lot of flus in the last month and I have found myself feeling frustrated, overwhelmed and drained. I had a good chuckle at a post in the Chicken blog, along similar lines.

God says that we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. What does it mean to be a conqueror? I started to google female warriors (and a lot of very interesting images came up, I tell you!) One female warrior that I love is Eowyn from Lord of the Rings; her zest, courage and fighting spirit.

Sometimes it feels like we are in a vicious battle. Her expression above reminds me of how I felt just this morning, trying to get three kids ready for school, resorting to nagging and debating with an also emotional three-and-a-half year old.

It is good to remind ourselves that there really is no battle. Jesus has the victory and we are victors with him. We can rest confidently in His power and love. No matter our feelings, actions and irritations, God is on our side! Of course a little extra sleep, never hurts either. There. I feel better already just writing this post.

Cactus

April 1, 2008

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The girls were intrigued by some cacti that uniquely grew on the beach shore at Hornby. When we got home I noticed a bright cactus at the store and I thought they would enjoy planting it and caring for it at home.

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Our little pet cactus

Badge of Honour

March 10, 2008

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Philippians 4:13

This Easter, I have been thinking a lot about God’s power. The resurrection power that raised Christ from the dead. Praise God that He gives us his power when we ask him for it.img_4053.jpg

My kids really inspire me. When they are feeling sick, they are often a lot braver than I am. They smile and giggle with a fever. They run and play with a cold. This weekend we had to take Megan to the hospital because she had a painful ear infection. How did I react? I wish I could say that I was like Marmee, the mother in Little Women, who comes right into a situation of illness and was the saving grace, knowing exactly what to do.

But no, I sat helplessly on the couch waiting as Mark took Megan to emergency. The opposite of powerful is helpless, which I often feel as a mother. Not knowing what to do or even thinking I can’t. “This is too much. I can’t cope with this. This is hard.” When I feel this way, I pray about it and God reminds me of what is true: that as a mom, I can walk forward in strength, wisdom and importance! I like to read Proverbs 31:10-30 and I have sensed the Lord saying to me, “This is the way all mothers can be with my power.” I have taken liberties while typing it out here and made it personal by substituting “she” for “I”.  Apply it to yourself as you read it:

“I am a wife of noble character

I am worth far more than rubies.

My husband has full confidence in me and lacks nothing of value.

I bring him good and not harm all the days of my life.

I select wool and flax. I am like the merchant ships bringing food from afar

I can get up while it is still dark; I provide food for my family and portions for my servant girls.

I consider a field and I buy it; out of my earnings I plant a vineyard.

I set about my work vigorously. My arms are strong for my tasks.

I see that my trading is profitable and my lamp does not go out at night.

In my hand I hold the distaff and grasps the spindle with my fingers.

I open my arms to the poor and extend my hands to the needy.

When it snows, I have no fear for my household, for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

I make coverings for my bed; I am clothed in fine linen and purple.

My husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

I make linen garments and sell them and supply merchants with sashes.

I am clothed with strength and dignity; I can laugh at the days to come.

I speak with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on my tongue.

I watch over the affairs of my household and do not eat the bread of idleness.

My children arise and call me blessed, my husband also and he praises me.

Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.

Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

After having this insight, I read the same idea in Joyce Meyer‘s The Confident Woman. She says, “The woman in question is such a famous confident woman and yet her name is not mentioned. I am certain this is because God wants each woman to be able to insert her name in this woman’s story…I disliked the woman in Proverbs 31 until I realized she was an example to me, a goal I could reach for. One that God Himself would help me realize if I put my trust in Him and was willing to change. Over a period of many years this woman I once disliked immensely has become a good friend.”

Our kids deserve a badge of honour and so do we!

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Agape

March 5, 2008

Some more thoughts about love (even though it’s March now). I greatly enjoy listening to Christian radio, Praise 106.5. In the morning they have a variety of pastors speak on various topics. I find that the messages bring life and peace to my day. On Tuesday, after dropping Megan off at preschool, I was listening to Dr. David Jeremiah, who isn’t usually my favourite, but his message really spoke to my heart. He told a story:

“Scottish broadcaster and writer Allister Moffat described the difference between his mother and his father on one occasion and he said it this way: She loved first and asked questions later. He asked questions and if he got the right answers he might love. Allister’s mother knew Agape love.”

“Agape, the Greek word for love which describes the highest form of love known to man or to the universe. Agape was unknown before God revealed himself in Christ. It is a love which is unconditional. It is a volitional love. It is not a feeling love or an emotional love. It is a love that is unrestricted and untamed. This is the selfless love that God has for us and he instructs us to have for others.” I know I have loved like the father in the story many times, but thank goodness God has so much Agape love to give us, that we can ask Him to help us give this love to our children. To hear the entire broadcast go to Turning Point.

Love Languages

February 28, 2008

Over the month of February, I tend to think a lot about love, because of Valentines Day. A wise friend recently said to me, “it’s really all about relationships”. This is a concept that I want to explore. “Relationship before rules” is a philosophy that we try to have in our home. Sometimes relationships can seem difficult to foster. We feel hurt, misunderstood or get impatient with each other. I have found Gary Chapman’s books on Love Languages extremely simple, practical and they bring great understanding to our relationships. It starts with understanding that we all have ways that we feel loved.

What makes you feel most loved? The five love languages are:

  • quality time
  • words of affirmation
  • gifts
  • acts of service
  • physical touch

Take the quiz to find out your love language.

This knowledge is also extremely practical to help foster loving relationships with our kids. Gary Chapman also has a book for parents about kids as well.

Gary talks a lot about the concept of a “love tank” and that our “love tanks” can become empty if our love needs aren’t being filled.

Of course God’s love for us is the greatest; it is good beyond what we can comprehend. In fact, though we try to love each other, only God can meet our deepest love needs; and he will, if we ask him to.

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses all knowledge-that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Ephesians 3:17-19

Now that is a great passage!

Shopping/break

February 11, 2008

I just got off the cell phone with my husband, Mark. He is at Superstore with our three children. I could hear the background noise of buggies, shoppers and Mark saying “Stop that Miranda! Stop that Miranda!” and then “I’ve gotta go!” I’m so thankful for him and I’m also glad that I’m at the computer right now instead of at the store. There are some kinds of shopping I love and others I resist.